As humans, it seems to be a natural thing to compare yourself to others. We often compare body types, possessions, relationships and so much more; and often we will see the little green monster of jealousy peeking its way through. Now is comparison completely evil? Or does it have some good aspects to it. And how can we stop unnecessarily comparing ourselves to those around us all of the time?
Comparison is not always a bad thing. It can light a fire within you to push yourself to a new place you never thought that you could reach. Seeing something that someone else has or has achieved can give you encouragement that it is possible.
However, comparison can be a demon. We often degrade ourselves when looking at someone else who is “better” than we are. As someone who does pageants, it is pretty easy to start comparing yourself to others, especially to the girls who win. The thoughts of “well what did [insert winner here] do that I didn’t”. This is the kind of comparison that can eat you apart from the inside out.
So how do you stop comparing yourself to others?
Well first you can step back and think about where you are in comparison to the person you are comparing yourself with. Are you just starting on a journey that they have been on for months or even years? Obviously, this would mean that they have had more time to excell at and achieve things.
Second, you can take a long look in the mirror. The person who you are looking at is the only one you should be comparing yourself to. You are your biggest competition, motivation and inspiration. if you only strive to be a better version of yourself, you will be much happier.
Lastly, don’t beat yourself up over the little things, including catching yourself in the act of comparison. You are only human (cue Christina Perri song). Pick yourself up, reread my first two tips, and keep being the best you that you can be!
Happy Monday and have a great week!